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18. Mentoring matters – Part 5

Titus 2:1-8

“As for you, Titus, promote the kind of living that reflects wholesome teaching. 2 Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience. 3 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. 6 In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. 7 And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.8 Teach the truth so that your teaching can’t be criticized. Then those who oppose us will be ashamed and have nothing bad to say about us.”

So are you a mature man? If not are you a:  

  1. Moldable Man – Younger Men, Verse 6

Interestingly after pointing out six qualities for older men to emulate, when it comes to younger men  Paul now only points out one: 

  1. Live Wisely 

This is not because they won’t be required to reach for the other five qualities as they grow up and grey, but because the first step in the process is to surrender your passions to Christ. If you don’t you will forever be the bull in the china shop, instead of being a blessing you will be a bruiser. Guys mentoring matters, we are called to encouraging young men and they desperately need our encouragement. Look they don’t need a lecture they need life lessons. What about you, are you encouraging or discouraging others by the way that you are living your life? 

Elephants in Africa game parks were relocate to thin the herds. The problems was hat they took the younger imature males because they were easier to transport. Soon there was a problem in the other parks, rangers started finding dead rhinos so they set up cameras only to discovered that these adolescent elephants were maruding around in groups killing rhinos. They theorized that in the absence of older bull elephants these younger elephants were left without any model of what they were supposed to do. So they brought in some older bull elephants and within weeks this violent behavior stopped. In a short time, the younger elephants were following the older and more dominant bulls around while learning how to be elephants. The same thing is happening in our country young men are not acting like men because their only experience of modeling the behaviors of men had been taught by their peers and not by their fathers. Societies solution to this problem is more police, scriptures solution is not police its parents. Look real men protect the vulnerable, not assault them because the most basic tenet of manhood to protect is not the job of the police it’s the job of fathers. What men are you modeling your life after? 


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17. Mentoring matters – Part 4

Titus 2:1-8

“As for you, Titus, promote the kind of living that reflects wholesome teaching. 2 Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience. 3 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. 6 In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. 7 And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.8 Teach the truth so that your teaching can’t be criticized. Then those who oppose us will be ashamed and have nothing bad to say about us.”

B.        Worth of Respect

This gets to the core of a man’s character, because the desire for respect is the heartbeat of every man. Our problem is we have bought into what the world says brings respect, riches and having the right stuff. But respect is not attained through riches but through living right. Most men are trying to earn respect instead of learning to be respectful. Stop demanding respect and start doing what’s right. Respect is the result of running after a righteous life. We are afraid to do that because most of us have equated righteousness with rigor mortis. But you can have fun without being a fool. After talking about character Paul calls us to focus on our:

  • Constitution – Results

Where Character determines your compass, Constitution determines your conduct.

  1. Live Wisely

This has to do with living a disciplined life not a dangerous life. You are either living a wise life or you are wasting your life. So what about you are you living a faithful life or a foolish life?

  1. Filled with Faith

Sound or solid in the Faith. We already saw that the work “sound” forms the basis of the word “hygiene” and was used to describe sick people becoming healthy. If we want to be spiritually healthy, and desire to help others become healthy then we must talk about truth and dialog about doctrine in practical ways that can be fleshed out in daily life. Some of us spend too much time on theological theories and not enough time fleshing out our faith. Is your just doctrine just truths you talk about or truths you walk out? Because the Pharisees had the right lingo but they never lived it out for the Lord.

  1. Loaded with Love

Real men lead with love, Christ did. Men are you modeling love in your marriage? Because your marriage is your greatest ministry tools. Many of us have reduced our Marriages to the ministry of me, made it about our happiness instead of our wife’s holiness. We have lost our love because we are looking through the lens of lust. Love gives lust grabs, love seeks to serve, lust seeks self. Love makes it about sacrifice, lust makes it about sex. Yes God has made us masculine and filled us with testosterone but that is so that we can protect not pillage. If men would be the men that Christ calls them to be there would be no more sexual slavery, the plague of pornography would be no more. So what about you is your marriage a ministry or is it a mess? Parents stop lecturing about love and live it out, men show your son what it looks like to serve and sacrifice and build up your bride. 

  1. Practice Patience

This means trusting in the trials, men if we want endurance then you are going to have to endure. Our problem is that we want the good life more than we want a godly life. Look hardships are going to come your way and how you handle them won’t just define you it will draw people to you or drive people from you. How do you navigate the negative and nasty times, you cling to the one who conquered the cross. There are going to be storms and seasons of suffering that will serve not to build your character but to reveal it. Pouring out Real men don’t just preach about patience they practice it until it pours from their pours.