Moments in the life of a Pastor

Colossians 3:18-4:1

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. 22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. 25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for their wrongs, and there is no favoritism. 4 Masters, provide your slaves with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a Master in heaven.

1. God’s Ways in the Workplace

Paul now turns to teaching about slaves and their masters. At first this doesn’t seem to fit with family life but back then most homes had slaves in them, so this fits in the general section of how to live out our faith at work within the family. Almost 50% of the inhabitants of the Roman Empire were slaves many defeated military. Paul was communicating God’s ways at work which for many of us is outside the home.

A. EMPLOYEES

Some of you feel like slaves at work so this passage will fit perfectly.

·      Work worth at work – Do your best at your job at all times.

We’re to work hard not just when the boss is around, but even when he isn’t. Paul is reminding us that we are to do what is right

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·      Worship at your work.

That doesn’t mean that you hold a worship service at your company. Instead, it means that you work out of reverence for the Lord. Your work, no matter what it is, can be an act of worship. Sometimes we get this backward as we look to our jobs to provide us with meaning and significance. Instead of looking for meaning in your career, bring meaning to it as you work in an attitude of worship.

·      Acknowledge the real boss.

Since Jesus is your Master, work as His servant in your job. That means that we should never be sloppy or unethical. Your employer may pay your salary, but it is the Lord who provides an eternal compensation and benefit package that is out of this world.

B. EMPLOYERS

The standard on how to treat those who work for you is to do what is right and fair. It was revolutionary of Paul to tell masters to care about the treatment of slaves. If you have people working for you, it’s important to deal fairly with them, just as God himself treats you. Pray for those you pay?

Colossians 3:18-4:1

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. 22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. 25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for their wrongs, and there is no favoritism. 4 Masters, provide your slaves with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a Master in heaven.

1. God’s Principles for Parenting

Next, Paul addresses the relationship between children and parents

A. Children are charged to Obey

“Children, always obey your parents for this pleases the Lord.” This means to listen to your parents and obey them most of the time, wait all the time. The verb here is in the present tense, indicating that such action is to be habitual and ongoing. What does obeying do? First it pleases The Lord. Second it puts us in an environment of growth and learning. Obedience provides promises: the 5th Commandment, according to Ephesians 6:3, carries with it a promise: “That it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Obedience brings God’s promise and pleasure. We say that we want a blessed life but be buck God’s ways.

In 1 Samuel 15:22-23, God puts rebellion on a par with witchcraft and idolatry. Because of the ramifications of disobedience and the blessings of obedience, parents must take seriously the task of training children to obey. We need to be engaged and encouraging, but we must also expect obedience from our children. That’s why Colossians 3:21 gives fathers an awesome responsibility: “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” In the Old Testament, Joshua was strong in his resolve for his family to serve the Lord (Joshua 24:14-15). Eli, on the other hand, was condemned because of his failure to restrain his sons (1 Samuel 3:11-14).

B. Fathers are Warned against abuse of Authority

While Paul uses the word “fathers” here to show the strategic role that dads play in parenting, the Greek word certainly includes mothers as well. I think one reason Paul points to fathers is because dads can be dictators. The danger we are to avoid as dads is discouragement, where our kids lose heart and give up.

We don’t have the time to discuss all the things that can lead to our kids discouragement but here are 4

·      Ignore them. A father who has no time for his children soon creates within them a deep-seated resentment. Have you ever noticed how often kids say look at me, they need our time. Children that grow up alone are alienated they feel unloved and unaccepted and may end up looking elsewhere to have their needs met.

·      Indulge them. As a society in our quest to make everything bigger and better for our kids we have given them everything they want and nothing they need. Everything leads to entitlement and indulgence leads to insolence. Often we indulge because we ignore. When parents forgo their roles it leads to restlessness and dissatisfaction.

·       Insult them. Some dads like to criticize their kids and even call them names. Sarcasm leads  to scaring and ridicule reduces relationship.

·      Intimidate them. Threats and unfair expectations can filet self-esteem.

Fellow fathers, we must love and lead our kids into obedience not lord it. Are you making it as easy as possible for our kids to obey.

1. Are you living under the Lords leadership and modeling obedience.

2. Do you see your kids as God’s gifts then be gentle

3. Have you partnered with God to discover and release who God created them to be.

4. Do you applaud them apart from their performance

5. Do they feel like you are on their side, for them not against them?

Ask your kids this week what one thing you’ve been doing that causes them to be exasperated. Get alone with each child, relationships reaffirm love.