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34 Cultivating Christ Like Character, Self-Control – Part 3

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Titus 2:11-14

11 For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. 12 And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, 13 while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. 14 He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.

After seeing the seriousness of living a self-control life we now come to the:


So, what is the solution to self-control, how do we maintain strong walls? I mean is it really possible to display self-control in this self-centered and self-seeking culture? We all know we need self-control and many of us have tried to control areas of our lives before only to fail and cause us to feel like giving up. But before you throw in the towel I want us to look at the premiere passage on self-control. It is found in the New Testament book of Titus 2:11-14. Now to give a little background context, the young pastor Titus did not have an easy assignment on the island of Crete. Crete was known as the first century “party place.” populated by people that are described in Titus 1:12 as “liars, evil brutes, lazy gluttons.” Temptations abounded in the Cretan culture and threatened to trip up these new converts to Christ. They had come out of a carnal culture and many of them had friends who were still participating in the drunken love fests for which Crete was famous. Crete was not an easy place for Christians to live out their faith while maintaining their purity and self-control. So, it’s no surprise that Paul’s brief letter to Titus is packed with admonitions to seize self-control. Paul challenges four groups of people to “be in their right minds” by being controlled by the Spirit of God:

  1. In Titus 1:8 elders are to be men who are known for their hospitality, good works, holiness, discipline and self-control.
  2. In 2:1, Titus is to teach the older men to be self-controlled.
  3. In 2:2, older women are to be reverent, truth-tellers and not addicted to alcohol. As they teach what is good, verse 4 challenges them to train younger women to love their husbands and children and to be self-controlled.
  4. In 2:6, Titus is to be an example to young men and to encourage them to be self-controlled.

The final verses in chapter 2 give us the solution to self-control. It’s not enough to try and be self-controlled in our own strength, we desperately need God’s power and His grace. The key to seizing self-control is grace, God’s lavish favor poured out on undeserving sinners. For it is God’s grace that does at least three things, first Grace:

  1. Redeems us

There is no way we can save ourselves. Verse 11 says that God took the initiative and brought salvation to us, “11 For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people.”Verse 14 explains that Christ “gave Himself for us.”He paid the price to buy us back from the slave market of sin, and free us from sins shackles. But Grace doesn’t just redeem us it should also:

  1. Reforms us

Salvation not only changes our position before God, but it should change our attitude, appetite, ambition and action. Not only have we been given freedom from the condemnation of sin but also freedom from the domination of sin. This grace that redeems also reforms and makes us godly. Verse 12 reminds us that we can say “no” to ungodly passions. To be self-controlled is to restrain ourselves by not giving in to our depraved desires. We can say “no” when everything in us is saying yes. God strengthens us in our temptations and provides the way of escape when they become too severe as 1 Corinthians 10:13 states, “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.”But His reforming grace doesn’t just help us to say no, it also allows us to say “yes” to the things of God. Because we have been redeemed from this world, we don’t have to be conformed to it. In fact, we can be “eager to do what is good” according to verse 14. We need to say both “no” to that which is harmful and say, “yes” to that which is helpful. Reforming has more to do with replacing than just resisting. A while back I had a friend who shared his struggle with cussing. Rather than telling him just to resist I challenged him to replace the corrupt words with Christ’s words. Rather than just focusing on the cussing I asked him to focus on what he was going to replace the cussing with. Because when we only focus on cussing we actually focus on the sin, but when we focus on the replacing we focus on the solution. I told him that every time he cussed I wanted him to speak out loud 10 praises. It wasn’t long before his cussing diminished why because the poison was replaced by praise. Instead of focusing on the sin he was speaking the solution. Thirdly grace:

  1. Rewards us (13).

We can have self-control not only because we’ve been redeemed from our former life and reformed on the inside, but thirdly verse 13 reminds us that the return of Jesus is our source of hope. Instead of living for today, we can live for what is to come. This is in stark contrast to pleasure seekers who live only for this life and what it offers. Remembering that we will see Jesus face-to-face provides the motivation to live Spirit-controlled lives today. Focusing on our Redeemers return is a powerful antidote to the poisons of this world, with its lusts and passions. The key to cultivating each of the nine-character qualities of the Fruit of the Spirit is not to try harder but to understand the short phrase that appears right after the spiritual fruit salad in Galatians 5:23: “Against such things there is no law.”This means that these characteristics cannot be legislated or enforced by a set of rules. You can’t make somebody be kind or patient or gentle. Likewise, no law can keep us from displaying the sweet fruit of the Spirit in our lives. The only thing that is keeping us from allowing His fruit to ripen is our own sinfulness and selfishness. The answer is not more rules its relying and resting in our relationship with Jesus. The answer is not self-control its letting the Spirit of God be in control. As we conclude this series on character, I want to give you an opportunity to respond to the Spirit’s promptings. As you read the following two verses from Galatians 5:16, 25: “So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.” I want you to answer the following two questions:

  • Are you living by the Spirit or are you trying to do it on your own?
  • Are you keeping in step with the Spirit or are you seeking to serve self?

My prayer for you is that you will let Christ not the culture cultivate your character.



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